Set Some Goals, Mother Fucker! #Goals #Motivation
There is research to suggest that if you write down your goals, you are more likely to achieve those goals. While it is worthwhile to set goals any time of year, the New Year can be a motivating time to start. Goals are a roadmap. They are great reminders of the things we want and a self-check so that you don’t veer off randomly. And, there is something to writing goals down. We feel more committed. I can one up that. Post them and tell other people. That makes it even more likely that you will stick to them. You have some skin in the game.
It is also important to recognize that setting the goals is only a beginning. The hard work is staying on the path of change. It is important to alter and update goals because each day brings new data. For example, if you set a goal of starting to jog every day for exercise, but you strain your foot, does that mean you give up exercise? I hope not. Time to revise. There are other times when we realize the goal is too high or too low. Be flexible.
The more specific your goals are, the better they will be — meaning set a date, set a realistic and measurable goal, and decide how you will do it. In other words, make a plan. You would be wise to include in your plan what will trip you up and what will help you make progress. How will you handle challenges? How will you reward yourself for progress?
Here is where MOMF’ing comes in. Rarely will someone try to make a big change in life or habits and not encounter a snag or backslide. This IS NOT a failure unless you make it a failure by labeling it as such. Everything you do is a learning opportunity. You learn more about yourself, what works, what doesn’t, and you can use everything you learn to be successful in your next effort. If you label it a failure or yourself as a failure, you create a feeling of shame and guilt that often leads to more unhealthy behaviors. For example, let’s say you want to lose weight, but you choose to have an unhealthy food you didn’t plan. If you call it a failure, you may eat more of it and a lot of other stuff you didn’t plan to have. If you pick yourself up and say, “Okay, this stops here. I’m back on the plan. What went wrong? What can I improve?” all is not lost.
My point is that if you don’t like where you are, move on mother fucker and set some goals. Make a plan. When your plan takes a turn, evaluate if that is the direction you want to go. If you fall down, get up, and move on mother fucker. Just keep moving with good intention. I would speculate that eventually you will move on in the way you want. Each step just provides more information. The problem is if you get caught up in judging. What happens isn’t good or bad. It just is. Just don’t stand still. Now is as good a time as any to say, “I am so fucking worth making this change.”
Here is your script:
“The past year has had some up and downs. You won some battles. You lost some battles. The most important thing is that you survived, and you are upright. Each and every experience has made you stronger and smarter and more determined. This next year, you are going to focus your energy. You are done with people dumping on you. You are done with people treating you like you are unimportant. You are done taking responsibility for problems that aren’t yours. This is your year mother fucker. While it won’t be a perfect year, nothing is perfect. You are a work in progress, and while you are out there being human, you will see that you do a lot of fucking amazing things. You are a mother fucker, and you embrace it. You can separate your shit from others, and your shit sack is unplugged. You are going to focus on what you can control and that is your attitude and your actions. You aren’t going to waste time on bullshit. Fuck that. Hold the vision of what you want in your mind. See yourself going for it one step at a time. You move closer to taking what you want, honey badger. Dig deep. Discover your energy source. Focus it. Slap the shit out of the “what ifs” and “buts” and “you can’ts”. Use painful lessons to energize you. YOU ARE A FUCKING AWESOME, ASS-KICKING, BULLSHIT CUTTING, ASSHOLE AVOIDING MOTHER FUCKER, and you’ve got this, my friend! Keeping MOMFing.”