Expansion Around Mistake-Mindset

  1. Perfectionism is inextricable from judgment. It is a constant evaluation of right v. wrong, but who judges what is right or wrong? Under what circumstances is something deemed to be right or wrong?
  2. What is the purpose of being right? Is it for others and what they think? The hunt for righteousness under the guise of perfection is not for the common good. It is for self-image or self-promotion or competition with others. Dreikurs proposes that people who are focused on the good of others are often too busy to worry about being perfect or right.
  3. The pursuit of perfection is often driven by a fear of “I’m no good.” If this is indeed true, it means, “I will have no respect. If I have no respect, I will have no status.” In this case, perfection can be subconsciously used as a feeling of superiority conveying a sense of power. All of this distracts from the ability to learn and grow.

“As long as we are so preoccupied with the fallacious assumption of the importance of mistakes, we can’t take mistakes in our stride.”

“The importance of mistakes leads us to a mistaken concept of ourselves.”

“How many things would be different in everyone’s surroundings if we hadn’t lived?”

“To be human means to be useful, to make contributions not for oneself, but others.”

“We have to learn to live with ourselves and the relationship of natural limitations and full awareness of our strengths.”

“In order to be right, you sacrifice kindness, patience; if you want, tolerance.”



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Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, Ph.D., A.B.P.P.

Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, Ph.D., A.B.P.P.


Author of Move on Motherf*cker: Live, Laugh, and Let Sh*t Go. Using CBT, mindfulness, humor, and profanity to feel better. jodieeckleberryhunt.com