As an executive coach, I have the extraordinary privilege of listening to some of the most emotionally intelligent, visionary leaders. …

With all of the noise about politics, social media drama, and issues of the day, it can be incredibly hard to maintain an authentic sense of direction. Sometimes I feel like I am spinning as I try to focus on each crisis served up by life. In this environment, it…

In psychology we teach people to argue with self-defeating thoughts and preoccupation with mistakes — either fear that we will make them or that they are catastrophic (as if they are completely avoidable). …

[A blog like this needs to come with informed consent. I graduated with my Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology back in 2000, and I have had a private practice in addition to teaching/consulting since that time. …

I believe in love. Seriously, I do. I just don’t believe in fairytale love. I believe in real love — the messy kind, the annoying kind, the kind that takes a lot of work. In order to get to real love, you have to cut the bullshit, and this involves…

Over the years, I have worked with a lot of folks who ask me: “Am I addicted to bad relationships?” Early on in my career, I would smile and assure the person “absolutely not.” It was simply impossible in my mind because I saw addiction as being associated with a…

Breakups suck. They just do. Even if we know they are for the best. Maybe it is because while we are in a relationship we are writing the rest of the story in our heads. We are drafting what could be instead of focusing on what is. Forecasting in relationships…

Meta-awareness is a crucial element of psychology training — that is learning to converse with others while simultaneously noticing oneself conversing with others. Think of it as split awareness. You are fully engaged in the conversation but also aware of your thoughts, reactions, and the dynamics of the interaction (i.e…

One of my favorite questions to ask executives is: What do you want your legacy to be? The really good executives respond with genuine modesty…. something like: “It’s not about me… it’s about the team” or “If I left tomorrow, things would be just fine without me.” But I always…